One of the most destructive habits to indulge in is to constantly compare your life with the life of others. Whether it is the house you live in, the job you go to, the car that you drive, the relationships that you are in, comparing any of these with others will create a whole lot of unnecessary heart burn for you. At a time when we are constantly bombarded by social media with so much information about the lives of others, it may be hard not to compare your lives with your Facebook or twitter friends. You must however stop or at least reduce the urge to compare. Here are 5 tips to help you out:
1) Focus on what you have: When we focus on the lives of others we begin to lose out on the important time that you could invest in yourself. By concentrating on things that we want to achieve in our lives we begin working towards our goals by investing time in them. This will take you away from the ‘poverty mind set’ which is one that only focuses on lack. Instead we can replace this with an abundant mind set. Once we focus on what we have we gradually lose interest in the lives of others.

2) Bring your awareness to the triggers: An important step to help you stop comparing yourself to others is to identify and become aware of what causes you to do this. One of the culprits that I mentioned earlier is social media. What else could trigger thoughts of comparison? Take some time out and think. Could it be a friend who constantly brags about his life? Or does it occur when you drive by an expensive neighbourhood? Make a list of all such stuff and consciously make an effort to avoid or limit your exposure to them.

3) The “Outsides” of people are not always the same as their “Insides”: I am reminded of a time when a couple would regularly post happy selfies of their romantic moments on social media only a few months later to update their relationship status as “Divorced”. Remember all that glitters is not gold and just because you judge people’s happiness by pictures of their fancy cars, houses and relationships; things may not always be the way they look. Go after the things that make you happy because you genuinely want it and don’t go after what makes others happy as that may not suite you.

4) Start comparing yourself to yourself: Instead of comparing yourself with others, compare yourself with yourself and measure the growth you have achieved towards achieving your goals. This habit will help you take steps to improve yourself rather than compare your life to others. Each one of us is unique and must run our own race.

5) Know that your situation is not the end of the movie: If you are upset with your current situation because someone else is in a better place than you, remember that it is not the end of the road for you. The other person might have been in your place at some point of time in his or her life and has now changed his life over. The same is possible with you. Life is what you make of it. We script our own life and can turn it around whenever we wish to. I transformed my life from being broke to now enjoying abundance. In fact, I have since found the master code to life and am happy to share it with you if you’d like to experience a beautiful transformational journey that will make you the master of your destiny. Try out my FREE program titled Power your life with the Life’s Mastery Vision Script Program (LMVS) .

Comparing ourselves to others will generate feelings of frustration, hurt, sadness, depression and anxiety. None of these bring us any good but only drain out our energy. Focussing on what others have makes us lose power and control over our lives. I urge you to take back power that you’ve given to other people, places or any situations. Focus on watering the green grass in your life and live happy.