If there is a Yin then there will always be a Yang. Much the same way all of us are often faced with disappointments. You must remember that if the Yin and Yang is true for disappointments then the converse will be true also. Disappointments can drag us to our most negative selves and keep us there for days, weeks or months together. Here are some tips to help you bounce back quickly from the drag caused by disappointments in your life.

1) Start by acknowledging the way you feel about the situation: Look at how you exactly feel due to a particular event or person because of whom you face disappointment. Acknowledge the fact that you are feeling disappointed. Find out what really happened, what should have actually happened and why you feel so disappointed about the situation. Accept the feeling in full as it is only after acceptance that your healing process can begin.

2) Believe that the feeling will pass off: Just because you experience disappointing feelings do not beat yourself up yourself due to the disappointment. Know that disappointments are not permanent and will inevitably pass off. Do not take it as a setback. And believe that you will move on soon.

3) Learn from the experience: We all learn and grow from our disappointments. The negatives come to make us stronger and wiser so learn from setbacks. They are your teachers. In difficult situations ,while looking out for solutions also ask yourself questions like, what will I learn from all that has happened? What can I do differently going forward to avoid similar situations? By asking yourself such questions you will be able to pin point reasons for your disappointments and where required change your course of action in those particular areas. You may decide to improve your communication skills if the disappointment occurred due to a misunderstanding; you may let go off spending time with a person who repeatedly disappoints you. Life is all about learning and being polished by our experiences.

4) Shift your focus to what is going right in your life: By doing this you sow seeds of positivity that in time will outgrow the negative feelings. Practice gratitude and shift your focus on the positive aspects of your life. Be grateful for your life as a whole. Be it your job, your home, the air you breathe, your healthy body, your family, your friends and so on. Practicing gratitude will immediately make you feel re-energized and focused.

5) Talk it over with someone: If you feel down or lonely don’t bottle up your feelings. Instead let it out, find a confidante and talk about the disappointment with him. Your inner pressure of the problem will immediately get released and you’ll feel better whether your confidante gives you a solution or not. Most of the time we will find the solution while talking to what I call a ‘sounding board’. If needed you could find a life coach who will give you a wider and healthier perspective of things which will result in solutions to avoid disappointments over a period of time.

I’ve personally helped over 500 clients overcome their repeated disappointments in life through my one-on-one coaching program that has transformed, empowered and enabled them to crystalize into reality those very dreams that they so happily dream of.