Things do not always go the way we expect they will. We face various challenges like difficulties in setting up your dream company, in personal relationships, not being able to take care of our health or whatever else the case maybe. Things just don’t seem to go right. The way we react to such situations is often by blaming it on ourselves. We either begin to blame ourselves, or indulge in self- hurt like anger. We may even resort to drinking or doing drugs. None of these ways will be able to do us any good. Being hard on yourself lowers your self-esteem and takes a toll on your steps to success.

Here are a few ways to break the habit of being hard on yourself:

1) Start recording your wins: This habit is very good for your mental health. Every time you do something successful make sure you note it down. When faced with a negative situation, instead of blaming yourself for being a failure, go to the page where you have recorded your wins and read through. You will instantly realise that what is currently hurting you is trivial in comparison to the success you have previously achieved.

2) Stop comparing yourself to others: Comparing your life with someone else’s is the worst of habits one can get into. Remember that you are unique and accept it. Each one has a different life and different circumstances hence we cannot always achieve what the other does. By comparing your life with others you are being unfair to yourself.

3) Accept your failures and learn from them: When things don’t go as planned and you don’t succeed don’t call it failure. Call it experience. Everything we typically call failure is nothing but a learning or experience that is setting you up for growth. Every time you feel you have not been successful in doing what you wanted to do, sit down and analyse the situation. Make a list of all the things that prevent you from achieving the right results. Then think of how you could do those things differently in order to win over the situation. Once you have your answers, shift your path towards doing things the right way.

4) Seek support: Asking for help does not mean you are weak. Everyone needs a helping hand. Form a mastermind group. Life is easier when there are people to help you out along the way. When more minds work on a problem there is a better chance of solving it. Take help from friends or family, there are many good Samaritans waiting to help you out. You could even try out a coaching program like the one I have on offer. I have worked with several clients who felt stuck in life but came out really strong by overcoming all blocks in life after the coaching program.

5) Treat yourself well: One of the major problems that takes place when things do not go your way is that you begin to hurt yourself intentionally or unintentionally. Remember that your life is your greatest gift. Learn to love yourself. Practice gratitude, look into the mirror and tell yourself that everything is going to be okay and that with the experience you have gained you are going to win over the obstacles in your life. Learn to live well with yourself. Do not feed yourself with negative self-talk, cursing, self-regret or any negative emotions. They only serve to hold you back. Celebrate life even in your failures, make them stepping stones to success. Your greatness is round the corner. Live well..!!