When things do not go well it is natural to feel pain. The question is what do you do after you feel the pain? Do you see yourself as a victim? Do you feel powerless? Do you feel that the whole world has turned against you? This is definitely not a good place to be in and you must pull yourself out of the situation ASAP. You should stop thinking of yourself as a victim as that type of thinking at the very least is disempowering. Instead look at yourself as a rising fallen boxer.

How do you do this?

1) Don’t wait for help. It may never come: Trust me when you are down very few will come around to help you. Many will come by only to listen and ‘enjoy’ the story but not to help. Some will even want to make sure that you are gone down under. So don’t wait for anyone to help. It is your mess and you must clean it up. If however people do appear to help then capitalise on them while they last.

2) What are the long term consequences of such a feeling? : Remind yourself that victim feelings will hold you back from doing what you want. Think of how it will affect all your important relationships. Think of how it will affect your own relationship with yourself. Realise how destructive this is going to be for your life if you don’t make a special valiant effort to get things back under control.

3) Replace the victim thinking with something helpful: Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Practice gratitude; be grateful for all the good things that happen to you in a day. Have a gratitude diary and make a note of them. Ask yourself what is the one thing you can learn from the situation and work towards improving yourself in that aspect. Forgive others if they have hurt you, forgiving others does more good for you than for others. Release yourself from all of the hate and anger that is built up inside of you.

If you still feel like a victim despite all of this I suggest you get in touch with me for my one on one mentoring. You will find details at Coaching. Unless you start you will never know. One–on-One coaching with Mario will help you uncover YOU. We are often held back by our limiting beliefs and a lack of confidence. Mario will shine a light on your hidden gems and bring them to the surface. Life for you will be magical. He will first teach you to dream and then will transform, empower and enable you to crystalize into reality those very dreams that you dreamt.