It is good to please people but being a door mat type of a people’s pleaser and not having a spine of your own can have terrible consequences for you. It will impact your life so badly that you forget to live the life that you want. People begin taking you and your needs for granted. Stop being a door mat.

Below are 5 good reasons why you should change this dirty habit:

1) Some people just can’t be pleased: No matter what you do you will never come to terms with some people. It is not about you but more about them. Unfortunately we live in a society where many people feel they are entitled to be pampered. It is perfectly okay to let go of the people that you cannot please.

2) Learn to say no: It is hard to say no to people even when you shouldn’t be doing the things that they want you to do. If you want to be happy, you must to learn to say no. Explain to them why you would not like to do what they expect you. You are likely to feel a bit guilty but it will pass off once you convince yourself that you haven’t wronged anyone. If you keep saying yes at the cost of your happiness, you will never end up being happy.

3) People do not care that much about what you do: It is unlikely that people will feel offended that you said a no to them even if they do it will just be for a short while. If they do get badly hurt and if you feel they were over doing it then it is their hard luck. People are busy with their own kids, career, pets, hobbies, dreams and worries. Even if they distance themselves from you because you chose to stand up for yourself, do not regret losing out a negative influence from your life.

4) Learn to handle criticism: Like I said earlier your decision to say a no may not go well with many, especially those who have gotten used to you being a ‘yes person’. They will indulge in criticizing you, however stand your ground and ignore it. Respond to the criticism only if you feel it is necessary by replying back as you deem fit without lashing out. It is okay to disagree, once you do then let go of all the criticism that you absorbed.

5) Set boundaries for yourself: by setting boundaries for yourself, it will be easier for you to say ‘no’. Maybe a strict start and stop work time. A set social media time. No work during the weekends at all and so on. Whatever you set for yourself, stick to it. Live your life on your terms. Be cheerful and happy always. Do not let others control you in any way. Learn to be the master of your own destiny. I have come up with a program titled Power your life with the Life’s Mastery Vision Script Program (LMVS). Be the Master of Your Destiny. Life’s Mastery Vision Script is the Most Powerfilled Technique to Manifest Your Desires with Ease.

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