This is not about making you either selfish or self centered.
Is it all about hot showers, pool side breakfasts, reading a favorite book while sipping on hot coffee or a day at the spa? These are good ways to which we pamper yourself and are often needed but pampering ourselves is only one small aspect of this thing I call “self love” Self- love is far more exciting and meaningful. Indeed self Love is profound and even enlightening!
Self-love begins with the thought of “I am enough”. It is waking up in the morning with a heart that over flows with gratitude for all that you have been blessed with. These blessings need not be big or great ones that have to be applauded by all and sundry. Indeed they can be as miniscule as appreciating a flower growing in your garden or even the freshness of the air that you breath. It is in accepting who you are with all your faults, strengths and assets. It is not about glossing over your faults but about being grateful for the good in your life while you go about correcting all that is wrong with it.
Is it easy to love oneself? No..!! On the contrary most of us have been conditioned to dislike ourselves so much that loving ourselves can be quite difficult.
It is a process that needs to be mastered.
If you have been repeatedly derided by your parents or companions that you are worthless or weak, you will grow up thinking it to be true. The reality may be just the opposite of what you have been conditioned to about yourself. My clients tell me, that it is extremely difficult for them to even think of loving themselves especially when they believe that they are not really good at anything worthwhile. Interestingly, I tell them that if they start loving themselves for who they are then soon they will stop believing that they are good for nothing.
The big question is how do we learn to love ourselves? For some the answer is easy and straightforward but for others…….
The answer to this lies in self-acceptance. We first need to accept ourselves for who we are ( good-bad, handsome/beautiful or ugly, Smart or dumb). The great teacher from Jerusalem thought us ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself’. But you cant give what you don’t have so if you don’t have love within you how can you love someone else? We need to remove all the barriers in our life which prevent us from self-loving. Loving yourself is the key to happiness and peace. Let me help you with a few very basic and simple ways to do this:

1) Nourish yourself: You can begin with being mindful of the things that you do to your body. Start your days with nourishing food that will help you have a healthy body and mind, both of which need to work well for yourself. Make the way you feed yourself is a reflection of how much you love your body.
2) Start a gratitude journal: Make it a point to note down 5 things that you are grateful for in a day and you’ll immediately begin to start thinking positive. Journaling will soon put you into an attitude of gratitude. Give thanks for things that happen to you each day, for the people that you meet and do not forget to include yourself as well.
3) Express yourself: While work and office life is very essential, we must learn to unwind and express ourselves by doing things that we enjoy like art, music, sports, poetry, writing and so on. Doing such things makes us feel alive and happy with ourselves. It often happens that we lose touch with things that used to keep us happy, only because we get caught up with societal pressure, daily chores, monotonous work routines all of which suck the happiness from us. Go get yourself to think of what makes you happy and begin to do it immediately.
4) Explore your spirituality: No matter what religion you believe in, always remember it is faith that is the base for self-love. Believing in God, or the universal intelligence or the Great Architect of the Universe will take you on a journey of learning things about yourself as well as make you appreciate yourself for being an almost perfect creation.

Loving yourself adds color to your life. Keep doing good and thinking well about yourself. My program on peace is based in self-love. Why don’t you try out the FREE program today?